Have you ever been faced with a scenario that has really made you stop and think about who you are and the way you live? We go about our everyday lives as though nothing will ever change; as though what is now has always been and will always be.
The pace of daily life is incredibly fast. Often we do whatever we can to keep up, to get by, to be able to pay the bills, life can very quick pass us by. In fact, this has never been more true! With technology in our pockets wherever we go we often have our heads buried in a mobile phone and don’t even look up. There is a whole world flying by that we’re missing out on.
Don’t get me wrong, I love having technology so available to me. In fact I’m writing this on an iPad while sitting on a train, but it needs to have its place in our lives. Everything needs to have its place. How often do you pull out your phone and check your emails, or Facebook, or twitter while you’re having dinner with your partner or family? How often do you stop someone talking to you so you can send a tweet?
We are “doers”. We always need to be doing something and with the rise smartphones and tablets this “doing” has never needed more “doing”!
Did we actually get less done when we didn’t have our email in our pockets? Did we not have “friends” before Facebook?
I want to you to stop all this doing, and start being.
When you sit down to dinner with your family, leave your phone in another room. When you’re spending time with the people you care about, actually spend time with them. BE with them and give them your complete attention.
Tip: when you get home from work, put your phone in a different room, or in your sock drawer, and leave it there… for the whole night.
When you go for a walk or run, leave your phone/iPod at home and as you walk really take notice of the air rushing over your skin; of the changing and mixed smells of trees and anything you walk past; of the ground under your feet, feel its contour; of the sounds of the world happening all around you – birds in trees, different people you pass having conversations you never thought possible. Take it all in. Eduard Exeanu writes a very powerful tip to help you get to this state of being, and that is to stop focusing on the internal you and focus 100% on the external you. What does this mean? Leave your worries behind, just for a little while, and enjoy being exactly where you are.
One thing that I love to do is stand in the rain. It sounds depressing, but when I walk around in the rain it takes away any control and reminds me that I am only a very small part of a much bigger world. I look up, close my eyes and feel the rain hit my face and soak into me. My worries and the things I need to “do” fade into insignificance. It gives me the opportunity to reconnect with that which is all around us – the world – and that which really matters.